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0001512Blogwebsite contentpublic2021-03-16 17:25
ReporterokcupidAssigned ToTed  
PrioritynormalSeverityminorReproducibilityhave not tried
Status closedResolutionwon't fix 
Summary0001512: Dating and Going Back to an Ex
DescriptionDr Date here checking in and addressing a very important topic – breaking up and then getting back together. Recently I received an e-mail from a reader who was asking if it was ‘ok’ to get back with his ex….well as each situation is different but there are general rules that apply.

First you need to think about why you broke up. You would think that is common sense but tune into any episode of Jerry Springer and you’ll see common sense is becoming less and less common. Anyways, obviously the break up happened for a reason and that reason seemed serious enough at the time to create the split so ask yourself “have these issues been resolved or am I just putting them on the back burner to boil over again at some time in the future”. That is the first question you need to answer and be real with.
Second – now you need to ask yourself “why do I want to get back together with this person”. Is it love? Is it lust? Are you lonely? Are you insecure? Make sure you want to get back with the ex for the right reasons. It’s not worth being in a bad relationship – as it may feel ‘nice’ to be with someone it’s not healthy if it’s not real.
I gave you two important points to chew on so start chewing………now!.
You are probably wondering how does Dr. Date does things. Personally I like to live my life moving forward. Going back to the past for me is just that – going backwards. I’m not a fan of that direction. When I break up with someone, it’s done; but to eaches own. And yes, it does hurt sometime to break up with someone but if when you don’t see the relationship going anywhere it’s far worse to hang on and feel the other person false hope. Breaking up and staying broken up is sometimes not easy but all comes down to being true with yourself and what you want. Remember this: at end of each day it is you looking back at yourself in the mirror and it is you that needs to make sure you are doing what is best for you. Yes – your life is about you.
Happy living!
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2021-03-16 15:22 okcupid New Issue
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2021-03-16 17:25 Ted Assigned To => Ted
2021-03-16 17:25 Ted Status new => closed
2021-03-16 17:25 Ted Resolution open => won't fix
2021-03-16 17:25 Ted Note Added: 0005970